Tomorrow is Father’s Day and that’s got me thinking about my dad and being a dad . . . like my dad, Dan Dellosso, Jr.
I played basketball in high school and my parents made it a point to make it to every game. My dad made it to every game despite working long hours as the general manager of a major supermarket in Baltimore, over an hour away from our hometown of York, Pa. There was one game in particular though, a significant game because it was our tiny Christian school taking on a public school, that my dad told he just wasn’t going to be able to make it. It was an away game, the location was an hour from our school and well over an hour from Baltimore, and he had to stay late at the store. He was bummed. I was bummed. As I said, my dad made it to all my games. We arrived and played the first half and as we exited the gym to regroup in the locker room I noticed a familiar form high up in the bleachers, sitting by himself. My dad. He’d left work early, driven an hour and a half, for the second half of the game. He smiled and waved. I waved back and my chest swelled with pride that my dad would go that far out of his way to see his son play baseketball.
That’s the kind of dad I want to be.
Some things I’ve learned from my dad:
- Respect those in authority over you, be it boss, employer, pastor . . . or parent.
- Never give up on your dreams. If God’s placed something in your heart, go for it and trust Him to take care of the details and make it a reality in His time. My dad waited fifteen years for God to call him into full-time ministry. He never gave up on his dream.
- Work hard and work honest, your integrity is everything to a watching world.
- Always be ready to share the gospel of Truth. It’s the most important message we can ever deliver.
- God’s Word holds all the answers to life. Read it, study it, love it . . . live it.
- Pay attention to those whom others ignore. Treat everyone as equal.
- When in leadership, people come first. Plain and simple.
- Respect your wife. Seek her counsel, heed her wisdom, truly partner with her in this journey called life and marriage and parenthood. Treat her as the jewel she is.
- Spend time with your kids. Engage them. Talk to them. Take an interest in their interests. Let them know you value them and enjoy being with them.
- Tell your wife and kids you love them every day.
I have to honestly say I don’t do all those things all the time. I’m a work in progress and fail often, but those times I succeed I think of my dad and the lessons he’s taught me whether he’s realized it or not. I’ve been watching and learning.
Which reminds me, I’m a dad too, of three beautiful, precious little girls, and they too are watching and learning. I only hope I can be as faithful and honest an instructor as my dad was and is for me.
I know my dad will read this, he reads all my blog posts, that’s the kind of dad he is. So dad, I love you. Thanks for teaching me so much about life just by living out yours in front of me. Happy Father’s Day.