Handling Tragedy, Part 6
This will be the last post on handling tragedy . . . for now, anyway.
#6 Reflect on how the tragedy has changed your life and use it for good.
Tragedy will change you, for better or worse. Unfortunately, for some it instills great bitterness and resentment. Anger, jealousy, hatred, they are all possibilities. Our natural instinct is to fight against suffering, to push back, repel it, lash out against it. But if we see it for what it is: hard, yes; terrible, yes; painful, yes; but an opportunity to make us stronger, it can change us for the better.
When I was first diagnosed I remember telling Jen, “When all this is done we’ll be better people for it and we’ll have experienced something and learned things we can then share with others.”
You know what? That’s exactly what happened. I’m a stronger person for going through this valley. I’ve learned lessons I never would have learned before, experienced things I’d never even imagined. My outlook on life has changed. My attitude toward others has changed. My burden to live life to the fullest has changed. I think I’m a better person because of cancer.
Take time to get away from the immediacy of the tragedy and reflect on what you’ve learned, what you’ve experienced, how you’ve grown, then pray that you’ll have the opportunity to impact others with it. Allow the tragedy to change you. Or rather, allow God to change you through the tragedy.
It’s difficult, I won’t lie to you, but God does want to use tragedy to mold us. If we resist and stiffen, it won’t happen, but if we give in to His will and simply trust Him, He will be able to shape us into a stronger, more faithful, more dedicated, more sensitive person.
And that’s always a good thing.
Now, I noticed yesterday that this blog has reached a milestone: 15,000 visitors. Thank you to each and every one of you who take the time to log on and read my ramblings. I’m so thankful for each of you because you make it all worthwhile.